I try regularly to release my anger in a productive manner – I use it as inspiration for my writing, I transform the angry energy into sad energy, which I use for my art and my poetry. I truly believe that anger hurts those that feel it the most. It really doesn’t pay to be angry at someone and hold a grudge – most of the time, the other person moves on and is not affected by your anger, hatred, or other negative emotions. It is beneficial, no matter your religion, to release those feelings from your life on a regular basis – meditation is my favorite way, unless I sit down and do art or write.
At this point, with my current situation, I am not angry with my ex – I am sad, and I miss him. I miss him so much, not because of the money, but because of the role he played in my life. The smiles that reached his eyes and lit up his face, the way he and my kids interacted and how much they love him. It is painful going home every night, knowing he is not there… But I am not angry with him.
So release that anger: vent, write, draw, paint, scream, go to the gym, meditate… Do something to let it go, because it will fester in your heart and mind until so much darkness has built up that it changes you into someone you never wanted to be.
Unless you want to be a serial killer – in that case, by all means, let the anger fester 😉